Variety – from harvesting lavender, Christmas book prep, to natural soaps

Life is crazy right now as we are all adjusting to a new normal,  so  that’s why I believe that it’s more important than ever to focus.

On what?  For me it’s about throwing myself into activities that make me feel happy, that keep me productive and stop me from worrying about the things over which I have no control. And often it’s as much about the little things, as it is the BIG things.  So family, health, work… anything that brings a little positivity into my life is welcome.

Natural fragrances…

This year my French lavender plants were glorious and just before the heads began to turn, I harvested them and brought them indoors. I’m not a great fan of potpourri, but when nature gives us something for free, I’m more than happy to sit watching TV and enjoy the wonderful fragrance for as long as it lasts! It really lifts the spirits in a way that fake fragrances can’t.

Reducing chemicals…

I’ve always been a frequent hand-washer, even pre-COVID, and decided to look for a range of hand soaps with less of the unnecessary chemicals in them.  They are also billed as being ‘natural, vegan, cruelty free and ethical’.

I do like a bar of soap, as well as the liquid dispensers, as it’s easy to carry one in my handbag.  A friend recommended the Faith In Nature range and I gave it a try. They also do hair shampoos and conditioners, so for me that was a big bonus!

They carry a wide range of wonderful fragrances and my hair and my skin have been much softer since I’ve been using their products. Holland and Barrett, and Amazon, often run special offers on items from this range and I tend to stock up whenever I spot an offer.

Work/Life Balance…

My work schedule for 2019 and 2020 was a busy one under normal circumstances, but with everything that has happened it was obviously going to cause an upset to my carefully laid plans. Parts of the lock down were difficult emotionally, as we lost a family member and post lock down, we are spending more time with family, particularly the kids. If anything made me treasure simple things like kicking around a football in the park or reading the kids a bedtime story – it’s been the first half of 2020!

However, having to make myself focus on work helped me stay sane after tearful online family chats when all we wanted to do was get together and hug. So, I wrote, I edited, I made graphics, I set up a YouTube channel and made videos… anything that kept my mind busy, as grief is a long, heart-breaking journey.

I love being an author, but it is hard work and many writers end up quitting. Why? Because hard work doesn’t necessarily guarantee an income, or success, and when you think about how many books there are out there, it’s hard to gain visibility.  Some  of my authorly friends began writing in their spare time, while holding down a day job and it takes a toll. And if, like me, you give up work to do it full-time those early years are tough.

I’m lucky enough to work with some wonderful publishers and I can tell you that while an author pens the story, it takes an entire team to  edit, polish and publicise every new novel. The process for each publication is usually a minimum of about nine months from writing that first word to seeing it launched – hence the term ‘book baby’!

My good news is that ‘Summer in Provence‘ has been riding high in the charts… hitting #8 in the UK main Kindle Chart and spending over a month in the top 30, so far. It made #2 in the Australian chart, too and became a best-seller in many other countries. And it’s the readers/reviewers who make that happen – so they, too, are a part of my team, as without their wonderful support I couldn’t continue writing!

But there was no time to celebrate, as I’ve been spending time gearing up for the launch of my next book baby… due for release on 3 September 2020:

 

It’s fun creating the graphics and making a video ready to put up on my new YouTube channel. It’s been a nice break in between writing and editing. You can read chapter 1 here: https://linnbhalton.co.uk/christmas-at-lock-keepers-cottage/ .

What’s next? Well, in 2019 I did a research trip to Lisbon and I’ve just finished the manuscript. My editor is reading it now and I await her reaction. Then the various stages begin… structural edits, line edits, polishing and then onto the production team and the cover designer etc etc. In the meantime, I’m busy catching up with admin tasks before starting my next manuscript.

But in between there will be (hopefully) a few meals out to support our favourite restaurants, a walk between Caswell Bay and Langland Bay, and some sleepovers where ‘sleep’ will consist of a few hours if I’m lucky.

But I am lucky and I’m constantly reminded of that fact. I have shed tears, quite a lot of them recently, I will admit. For now, I’m focusing on being positive and in a world where there is a lot of sadness, anger, and aggression, I’m determined to keep sending out positive thoughts and good karma. And healing thoughts to so many friends out there who are struggling with serious health issues, which serve to remind me  exactly why I am so lucky and it’s humbling.

Anyway, until next time… stay safe, everyone and don’t forget to grab those happy moments whenever you can!

 

 

Please note – all opinions are my own. Any products/links I share are because I have purchased, or used the product, and I have no affiliation, do not accept free gifts,money with regard to any product/person/organisation. Until next time…

 

Ljeto na talijanskom jezeru

Ljeto na talijanskom jezeru

The Croatian translation of ‘Summer on the Italian Lakes’:

Opis:

Štivo uz koje ?ete se opustiti i zabaviti, savršeno za obožavatelje spisateljica Lucy Diamond i Karen Swan.

Autorica svjetskih bestselera Brianna Middleton svojim je neodoljivim – i papreno seksi – ljubavnim pri?ama osvojila srca milijuna ?itatelja.

No djevojka koja ih piše u velikim je problemima: pati od spisateljske blokade, a na privatnom ljubavnom planu doživljava krah.

Prigoda da provede ljeto drže?i predavanja u spisateljskoj oazi smještenoj u idili?noj vili na obali jezera Garda, vili koju posjeduje poznati pisac povijesnoratnih romana Arran Jamieson, možda je onaj sastojak koji ?e je nadahnuti i unijeti romantiku u njezin život.

Brieino talijansko ljeto natopljeno suncem moglo bi predstavljati po?etak njezine vlastite bajke – koja ?e završiti rije?ima „i živjeli su sretno do kraja života“.

SKU: 000211
Kategorije: Beletristika, Ljubavni, Ljubavni i erotski
Oznaka: Lucy Coleman
Naslov izvornika: Summer on the Italian Lakes
Jezik izvornika: engleski
Prevoditelj: Sanja Š?ibajlo
Broj stranica: 404
Godina izdanja: 2020

O autoru

života“. Linn B. Halton – neko? dizajnerica interijera, a sada spisateljica koja piše i pod pseudonimom Lucy Coleman. Linn je autorica koja je, za sada, napisala 18 uspješnica. Živi u Coed Duonu u Velškim dolinama sa svojom „stijenom“ Lawrenceom i predivnom bengalskom ma?kom i otvoreno priznaje da je vje?na romanti?arka. Linn je ?lanica društava Romantic Novelist’s Association i Society of Authors. Piše vedre romane o životu, ljubavi i me?uljudskim odnosima.

https://stilus-knjiga.hr/proizvod/ljeto-na-talijanskom-jezeru/

Ljeto na talijanskom jezeru

Seeing the positive in the negative, shedding tears and staying healthy

On 2 April 2020 my newest book was launched and late in the evening, tragically, we lost a much-loved family member. It will probably add to the list of deaths from the virus, but she was young and fighting her fifth, consecutive cancer.

It’s tough coping with this crisis, isn’t it? Like so many of my readers, I miss family hugs because we’re spread out over quite a distance.  Skype/Facetime isn’t quite the same; less so at a time of loss.

It was nine days before her birthday and even knowing that I wouldn’t be able to send the card I’d bought for her to the hospital, I kept it next to my computer. In my heart I knew she wasn’t going to make it, but putting it away would mean I was giving up and she’d fought a long, and hard, battle.

The day she died I added a heart-felt letter to the envelope. Being miles away and unable to see her to say goodbye, I sat in the garden and sobbed. A young life that had taken away too soon – she was a wonderful, caring person – someone I was proud to have known.

That night, I cut the card up into small pieces and burnt it in a little dish.  As I watched the smoke drift across the garden, because of my beliefs it gave me a sense of peace. And that’s what today is all about, finding a way of coping with the impossible.

What isn’t easy for me, is that I’m a research nut. If one of the characters in a novel flies off somewhere, it’s a real, scheduled flight including the taking off and landing times. In the same way that, up to now, I have flown off to research the locations.

When it comes to health issues it’s information overload these days, isn’t it? And with the virus it’s gotten worse. No matter what any of us believe (and my beliefs are not mainstream, by the way) all we can do is follow the new rules, because panic causes stress and stress causes illness.

Writers are used to isolation. My working life continues, almost as normal, and my workload for this year is a demanding one. It isn’t always easy to focus, I will admit, but I make myself. There is no point stressing about things you cannot affect, or alter. It’s in the lap of the Gods – or the government – according to your beliefs. Will the world end? No. But life will be very different going forward. So all I’m doing is taking it one day at a time and being very, very grateful that the rest of my family remain well at this time. Remaining strong, active and positive is about setting an example.

Hard work is good for the soul and it means I can’t dwell, which in turn means I’m less stressed.  And less likely to get sick and worry those who love me! Because the stories I write are uplifting,  the reviews are keeping me going. Readers tell me they are grateful to escape their worries for a while and that is humbling. With the launch of ‘Summer in Provence’, the book love coming back at me was a welcome boost when I was at my lowest ebb.

In between trying to keep up a normal routine, my husband – Lawrence – and I, will sit and watch a feel-good film, play music, or paint something in the house. If the sun is out  then we make sure we sit in the garden after lunch to lift our spirits.

I’ve decided that there is absolutely no point in trying to preempt what the future holds – now, more than ever, it’s time to live life one day at a time. I believe we are experiencing a paradigm shift and many things will change going forward, some for the better.

Things I’m doing that make me feel as if I’m at least doing something positive:

  1. Zero food waste. I plan meals around what needs to be eaten first.
  2. The temptation is to comfort eat… so I’m trying very hard to keep meal portions small, but interesting. I’m thinking of ways to use less and adding things to bulk out a batch cook-up to make it go further.
  3. Phoning people regularly whom I think might not be coping so well with isolation.
  4. Keeping texts/messages short, but regular. You never know when someone isn’t in the mood to talk, or – conversely – might need a listening ear.
  5. Staying calm and practical – if I panic, then those around me I interact with will sense that, too. Panic achieves nothing except for causing stress, and stress = illness, virus or no virus.
  6. Keeping myself busy. If I wasn’t constantly working I would be reading, working on the garden, up-cycling furniture… hobbies (and work) are a life-saver!

 

Being, and staying, healthy

Non-virus related chatter! Because of my second bout of kidney stones in three years, which began about nine months ago, I started working with a kinesiologist. It began with a hair analysis test.

I’ve always used essential oils, taken various vitamins and supplements, and tried a number of holistic practices over the years – acupuncture, acupressure, homeopathy etc.  So, I went into it with an open mind. Western medicine tends to treat the symptoms, rather than the cause and, clearly,  amassing two lots of kidney stones so close together meant action was required – seven the first time (one had to be surgically removed) and three the second time around. Passing the stones is not easy. The last one took a month and it was agony.

I can only speak from my own experience BUT when the hair analysis came back showing (I’ll give one example) my magnesium levels were extremely low, I could confirm I had all of the symptoms related to that condition. And I’d had several trips to the doctor over a period of some months with classic symptoms which were getting worse. I’d been advised by my doctor to drink tonic water every day as a solution.

Anyway, it’s suffice to say that I felt the results of the test meant it was money well-spent – it cost about £80 with a full report and a one-to-one session with the kinesiologist. I was so impressed, that I now see her on a regular basis and slowly we are sorting out the problems.

I will be blogging in future posts about some of the interesting things I’ve learnt during this process – not just related to the alternative, holistic approach. But everything from cutting out chemicals, to being more aware about what I’m putting into my body. And why a low fat diet didn’t do me any favours.

Today, though, I’d like to mention two specific things, because I think it’s important to share.

1. My newest discovery…

 

The hair analysis showed that my aluminium levels were high – and I mean HIGH. Who knew? I also didn’t know that what I was using each day on my armpits had aluminium in it! I mean armpits – where we have lymph glands, which play an important role in our body’s immune system .

If you you want to find out more about this topic, there’s an interesting and very informative article here: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/deodorant-aluminum-safety-what-you-should-know

After a little research, I bought these two bottles from Amazon. After using the product for a couple of months, I gave two bottles to each of my sons and their partners for Christmas… hint, hint.

The company’s blurb: Salt of the earth natural unscented deodorant is made from 100 percent natural ingredients and fragrance-free. This natural deodorant spray is free from aluminium Chlorohydrate, kind to skin and offers long-lasting protection from body-odour. Not tested on animals. Suitable for vegetarian and vegans.

They do a whole range of products, not just sprays, and also sell re-fill bottles, making it cheaper. My favourite is the natural one and the melon & cucumber – but they do a large range from pure armour for men, to coconut, lavender and vanilla etc. Prices range from £2.99 to £5.99 for a standard bottle as in the photo. It does last quite a while.

For further info check out their full range on Amazon:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/s?k=Salt+Of+the+Earth&i=drugstore&search-type=ss&ref=bl_dp_s_web_0

 

2. My shock/horror discovery

Dark Waters (2019 film)
Everyone should watch this!

The story dramatises Robert Bilott’s case against the chemical manufacturing corporation DuPont after they contaminated a town with unregulated chemicals. … The film is based on the 2016 New York Times Magazine article “The Lawyer Who Became DuPont’s Worst Nightmare” by Nathaniel Rich.

https://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/magazine/the-lawyer-who-became-duponts-worst-nightmare.html

Who doesn’t have T*e*f*l*o*n in their kitchen/homes? Here are two other articles worth reading, the first from the US perspective:

https://thedevilweknow.com/get-the-facts/

and:

https://www.ecoparent.ca/eco-home/teflon-really-so-bad

I have an induction hob, but I’ve found that Vision glass cookware pans work and I’m using ceramic dishes instead of baking trays. Note: since using the glass cookware pans I’ve noticed a slight ‘bloom’ has developed on the surface where the pans sit. Might be worth checking with the manufacturer first but personally it doesn’t bother me.

Like it, or not, we all have to make decisions for ourselves and for our loved ones. With so much fake news around these days and a lot of things being hidden/suppressed (how did I not know about the T*e*f*l*o*n thing until I saw the film recently) it’s important that each of us MAKE UP OUR OWN MINDS. Don’t believe everything you read – be discerning and decide what makes sense to you.

I will be honest – some of my beliefs have changed quite radically over the last year for a number of different reasons. And I will be admitting some of my more dubious decisions in later posts, in case it’s useful to anyone else.

I see every step forward I take that is likely to make me, or my family, feel healthier and/or better as a big positive. And this is a time for counting the positives and rejecting the negatives.

Stay strong – we are all in this together, world-wide, aren’t we? When we come out the other side of it, some of the changes will be from the results of lessons learnt and that’s a positive, too.

Sending a virtual hug for those in need… I know I’m one of those!

Please note – all opinions are my own. Any products/links I share are because I have purchased, or used the product, and I have no affiliation, do not accept free gifts or money with regard to any product/person/organisation. Until next time…

When life gives you lemons… free yourself by tapping!

I’ve never been busier – which is good for an author – and yet life has done what it usually does and thrown into the mix yet another kidney stone (the last of three since October) and a family illness that’s hard to accept. It has been a tough few months and Christmas was a time of very mixed feelings. Like any major worry, things drag on and somehow you have to get through it with your sanity intact.

My kidney stone is a pain, literally  and hopefully will soon be gone. But I have been working with a kinesiologist on my diet to make sure they don’t come back for the third time.  I’ll be writing more about this in a future post, as it’s been quite an experience.

What I wanted to talk about today, is something called: Emotional freedom technique (EFT). It’s an alternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress. It’s also referred to as tapping, or psychological acupressure. This technique, which involves tapping  various points around the body, is supposed to balance the energy system and treat pain.

A way to alleviate pain and it worked for me

PAIN. Yes. I can connect with that. I’ve used it extensively to help me cope with the pain of passing kidney stones and it has allowed me NOT to take painkillers, which usually upset my system and make me feel even worse. As far as I’m concerned, anything that helps which doesn’t involve ingesting chemicals, is worth trying and it works for me. But what I’ve discovered, is that it can help in many other ways, too.

It helped me with my fear of taking-off and landing when flying

I love flying – once I’m up in the air – but getting up there and getting back down has always turned me into a quivering wreck.  It’s embarrassing as I really do panic, my heart rate shoots up and I grab onto my husband’s hand as if I’m going to die. However, on a recent research trip to Seville, I used EFT. Not wanting to draw attention to myself (you can tap various points, including the top of your head), I gently tapped along the side of each thumb and finger in turn (on both hands), with two fingers.

And it worked. Not only does it distract you, for the first time EVER my stomach was not tied up in knots, my heartbeat remained normal and I felt relaxed. For me, that was little short of a miracle.

It helps me cope with worry (as with serious illness in the family) when it threatens to overwhelm me

I’m a nurturer and I really struggle to accept that sometimes we are powerless to help those we love. Experiencing pain is one thing, seeing someone you love in pain is another. It makes you feel useless and it’s heart-breaking. And worries like that tend to weigh on your mind when you lay down to sleep, don’t they? It’s easy to tap when you’re lying in bed and what I find is that it’s instantly calming. My mind is distracted, because my body acknowledges the tapping and instead my focus is on the feeling that it generates.

Now this is simply how I experience it, but the effects are very real. And beneficial. Of course, there are many YouTube videos and posts online which explains in depth the various tapping points around the body. For those interested in the science behind it, it’s a different use of the energy pathways/meridian points. Acupuncturists use over 300 meridian points and, of course, some people are familiar with the age old Chinese median system.

But if you are looking for a quick introduction about why, where and how to… this is a post I stumbled across online to which I often refer:

https://www.emofree.com/nl/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/how-to-do-eft.html

 

Relaxing, candlelit baths with magnesium flakes, and meditation sessions have also helped me through this difficult time. I’m very fortunate, too, in that even when I’m in pain or worrying about someone else, I can at least escape into my writing. I’ve written while in the A&E department of a local hospital, waiting for a CT scan to see what one of my stones was doing. And I once wrote the final chapters of a Christmas book, from a hospital bed during the early hours of the morning,  after having had an operation to remove a stone.

I’ve learnt that when I’m distracted it stops me dwelling on things I can’t change.  Pain lessens, my mind slows down and it stops me panicking. I wish I’d discovered EFT sooner, but now I have I feel I’ve been given a gift. A gift that involves using my fingers… a bit like writing.

With my latest book, A Springtime to Remember, released on the 26 December 2019 and my next book, Summer in Provence, due out on the 7 April 2020, AND two more titles due out later this year – yes, I’m crazily busy. But I’m not stressed, I’m coping and trying to focus on the good things – because even when life is tough, there is so much for which to be grateful.

The kids are all well and smiling.

Spring is coming.

And miracles do, sometimes, happen.

Wishing everyone a healthy, happy and peaceful 2020 – one filled with love…

 

Please note – all opinions are my own. Any products/links I share are because I have purchased, or used the product, and I have no affiliation, do not accept free gifts or money with regard to any product/person/organisation. Until next time…

 

Mystery, intrigue and passion… the Palace of Versailles!

It’s always exciting when a new book is launched into the world. Writers are passionate about what they do and the release of ‘A Springtime to Remember‘ by Boldwood Books, on 26 December 2019, is like having that Christmas morning feeling, twice over!

A big part of the excitement is that I have long been in love with the Palace of Versailles and its extensive park and gardens. The sheer scale and the opulence, are breath-taking…

It was an incredible feat to turn what was, initially, a small hunting lodge, into such a magnificent palace. But it was astonishing to then pay that same level of attention to detail, when creating the park and gardens. Particularly as the area was boggy, and insect ridden, regarded as of little use because of the cost involved in draining it.

But A Springtime to Remember is a modern-day love story. Lexie Winters, teams up with cameraman Elliot Nielson, to film a series of interviews with the palace gardeners of today. However, Lexie’s interest is also very personal. Her grandma, Viv, spent a year there as a horticultural student in 1961. Her grandma never talked about what must have been a thrilling experience…

As Lexie’s story unfolds, a mystery is unravelled, and a truth is told for the very first time. Versailles casts its magical spell on many people and once they have visited, they leave with memories they will never forget.

Sadly, when passions run high, hearts can get broken… as they have in the past. Unless fate has a plan.

‘This is a wonderful story written in such a way that readers stay engaged anxiously awaiting the next clue.’
Jane Whitmeyer

CLICK HERE TO READ CHAPTER 1!

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Grab some ‘me’ time and fill the air with essential oils

Me time?

Everyone needs a little ‘me’ time, but in a busy life where there are too many demands for those meagre twenty-four hours each day, our own needs slip down (or off) the ‘to do’ list, right? Wrong.

So what, if at the end of the day you are too tired to take time for you, at least you’re surviving. Well, the truth is that’s a red flag.

It’s not about quantity, but quality, when you need that instant  feel-good factor. Think about what puts a smile on your face – reading a book? Listening to your favourite music? Taking some pamper time to relax in a bubble bath? Even a stint in the garden weeding, or pruning, will get you out in the fresh air for a breather.

It’s about avoiding living one’s life on auto pilot, which is easy to do – particularly if you are a nurturer and have lots of people relying upon you.

My problem is that I get bored very easily. So sitting and doing nothing – oh, that’s called relaxing, isn’t it? – has never been my thing.  Because I wake up very early and that’s my super-productive time, I tend to run out of steam early evening. That’s when I watch TV, which doesn’t count as ‘me’ time – it’s vegging out time before bed.

To perk myself up, particularly during very frenetic  periods of my life, I look for something engaging to give me an instant boost. So when my schedule is crazy, instead of taking my coffee break at the computer, I can often be found with a paint brush in my hand. I really enjoy up-cycling old items I find in junk shops and car boot sales.

I also enjoy making stencils and creating little areas of interest on a wall. It’s quick and easy to create and fun!

Six easy steps:

  1. In modern houses, the master bedroom ensuite is usually small, so it’s a case of adding a little interest.
  2. Recycle some cardboard – preferably anything with a shiny surface, as it’s less likely to absorb the emulsion paint.
  3. Draw on your pattern and use small scissors to cut out the shapes – curved nail scissors are excellent.
  4. You will need some Frog tape to attach your stencils to the wall and I use an old washing-up sponge to dab on the paint. I pull off the abrasive pad, cut the sponge into two and cut out ‘bits’ so it makes an uneven surface.
  5. Use the frog tape to attach your stencils to the wall.
  6. Dab on the paint. For this stencil I drew in the ‘stems’ with a felt tip pen afterwards, then dabbed them with a wet cloth to soften the look and blur the edges. I then used a pencil to draw in the spines on the leaves.

A rustic look is much better than a pristine look and this cost nothing, as I already had the emulsion paint and I always have Frog tape in the cupboard. When you tire of the design, simply lightly sand the stencils, apply another coat of the background colour and try something new!

No matter what ups and downs we negotiate, it’s often the small things that help to calm and relax us. It’s just a case of finding what works for you. Whether it’s knitting, baking cakes, going for a walk, flower arranging… each to their own. TV and computer games have their place, but they don’t have the same sense of fulfilment as getting hands-on to create something, or getting physical. It’s all about getting those endorphins pumping around your body to invigorate you. Just find a few things you can easily slot in to break up the day. A change is as good as a rest!

Not just a beautiful smell… but useful for cough/cold/flu season!

A beautiful smell can lift your mood… and ease that cold!

 

Coughs and colds come around with monotonous regularity and can make you feel truly awful! I’m a great believer in using a aromatherapy diffuser/night light/humidifier – I have one in my office and one in the bedroom.  I bought them from Amazon and they cost around £15.99:

https://amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B06XGRQ4KB/

I add a few drops of essential oils and it really lifts the spirits and filters around the house, making it smell wonderful. It’s more natural than a shop-bought air freshener.

My favourite oils are – lavender, tea tree and Egyptian geranium. They are all inexpensive (a couple of pounds each) and both lavender and tea tree have antiseptic properties. But did you know that if you have a cough/cold you can add a few drops of eucalyptus oil and, sitting near to the humidifier, the steam is very beneficial and will help to calm that cough and loosen a tight chest?

Because I tend to run the one in my office throughout the entire working day, I make up a 500ml bottle by filling it with water and then adding a dozen drops each of lavender and tea tree, and about eight drops of Egyptian geranium.  Every time I fill up the little well in the machine, I shake the bottle first to distribute the oil and it takes a couple of seconds.

Working from home, in particular, I feel it’s important to make your surroundings as pleasant and relaxing as possible. For me, a wonderful smell is as essential as keeping everything around me clean and tidy, for peace of mind.

I often read in bed and this particular piece of kit has a little light with different settings. It’s very relaxing to have on in the background and a perfect way to wind down at the end of a busy day.

Born to write

Writings tips

Most people assume that as a full-time author I write every single day. That works for many, but I don’t set myself a daily word count target.

It’s very exciting to start a new work in progress and if I had my way I’d disappear until I find myself typing ‘The End’. I find it disruptive to break off, but unfortunately it isn’t possible to suspend everything else in my life to indulge my ideal working practice! Not least because I’m the chef in our house and it’s one task (unlike dusting) that requires attention three times a day.

I wake very early and I’m most productive between 5 a.m. and 1 p.m. So, whether I’m writing, editing, working on my website, designing graphics for Twitter etc that is the time when I can motor through the work. But I like to focus on one thing and then after lunch, I multi-task.

There is always a ‘to do’ list of odds and ends. Sometimes, depending on the stage I’m at with a story, I can then get back to writing. If there are no family demands, and because writing is a form of relaxation for me, I’ll write through until bedtime.

The truth is that I’d rather write than watch TV, for instance, because it’s my happy place. And that, I find, is the key to feeling content. Even before I gave up the day job to write, I had two diverse careers – with a few equally as enjoyable, shorter-term work experiences – but all of them things that I really enjoyed doing.

That’s not to say there weren’t boring bits… to get one particular job, early on in my career, I had to input the data from 5,000 forms onto a database. I was on a casual contract and knew that if I succeeded in getting the task done, there was a good chance they’d take me on. And they did – I never had to process data again.

My former careers taught me many life skills that I use every day as a writer. And it gave me a wealth of experiences to call upon. I’ve always believed that everything happens for a reason – whether it feels good, or bad – it’s a learning curve.

So if today is one of those where you are seeing the down side of life, take heart. Tomorrow could be the day when you hit a new high!

Keep smiling…

 

 

 

 

Getting things into perspective

How do you cope when life hands you lemons? Especially when some areas of your life are going well and then, suddenly, another area falls apart?

When someone close to you is very ill, it sucks the joy out of everything and yet you have to remain strong and positive. Juggling family worries, a new book launch, the bathroom being ripped out (lots of noise, dust, and water and electricity going off and on) – well, my sanctuary is writing. And I’m grateful to have that, as it shuts everything else out for a while. I can then re-enter the world calmer, stronger and ready to do battle. And life is a battle of sorts. You can either lie down and whimper, or you can get up and fight.

I’m sharing this because if you are looking for a great way of relaxing, I’ve recently discovered Tai Chi. It’s something I’ve always meant to try and you know how it is – time rolls by. But with everything that has been going on recently, I realised that I needed it NOW. I’d not been sleeping well, as the moment my head hit the pillows the worries were relentless.

One thing about being faced with a problem where there’s nothing you can do (other than listen and be there when needed) is that it makes it doubly stressful. You feel as if there should be something you can do to fix it. But when it’s down to the doctors and prayers, it’s a humbling experience and it does put everything else into perspective.

So I figure that if I take care of ME, then I will be stronger to help those around me.

What I love about Tai Chi is that it’s gentle and meditative. You can break off in the middle of a busy day to spend ten minutes doing something that will immediately calm you. Whether that’s the thoughts whirling around inside your head, or simply relaxing your body.

I was lucky enough to join a local class run by a very motivating and informed lady, Ann Evans, and while my moves are not as graceful and perfectly formed as Ann’s, the benefit was immediate.

 

Learn to focus on what’s important in life…

 

It can be done anywhere, but Ann explained that being grounded is important. The electrical energy builds up in our bodies and having bare foot contact with the ground is a great way to discharge it. Now, I’ve never walked on grass in my bare feet before, because I have sensitive, ticklish feet.

But, as I spend many hours each day either on my PC – or iPad – writing, what Ann said made a LOT of sense. So now I’m a convert. Even doing a little session in the rain one morning. Try it for yourself! And when I’m grabbing those precious minutes out in the fresh air it reminds me to look around – and there is nothing as calming as nature!

My little friend…

Another reason for my quest to keep myself as fit as possible is that I recently found myself in A&E. I had what is called a Baker’s cyst behind my knee and it burst, mimicking the symptoms of a blood clot. Fortunately, it’s down to a bone spur in my knee and I’m fine, but I will be blogging about an interesting connection with kidney stones (if any of you have experienced that) as it’s all interlinked. And now I’m addressing the cause (having had both) rather than the symptoms.

So while work is going well, other things have weighed (and continue to weigh) heavily on my heart; but it just reminds me to keep counting my blessings. And to keep sending out good karma, hoping it comes back to my family as healing love for those in need right now.

And it’s PAMPER TIME again…

A pick-me-up

Once a week I set aside an hour to meditate in a leisurely bath with some soothing music. But first I like to exfoliate my face using St Ives Apricot Scrub. It costs a couple of pounds and one tube lasts for ages.

It’s slightly gritty so you don’t need to rub hard, or for very long, but when I wash it off my skin feels clean and looks fresher/brighter.

I follow this with the Body Shop Drops Of Youth Liquid Peel. It’s probably the single most expensive product I’ve ever bought (£18) but it’s 100% vegan and lasts for a very long time if you use it once a week.

It contains the stem cells from three different plants and leaves my skin feeling silky smooth. I don’t use many products, mainly out of laziness, but as my skin ages and I wear less make-up, I don’t want it to look tired and jaded, but refreshed.

Note: I have normal skin with no cuts or skin issues. If you have sensitive skin, or skin problems, check out the manufacturer’s blurb, consult your doctor AND always do a small test patch of any product you are trying for the first time.

And finally… a Writer’s Life:

It’s all in a day’s work…

 

I thought it might be useful to any writers out there who drop in, to talk about the two most common questions I’m asked.

The first is:
What is my no. 1 writing tip?

Everyone’s style is different, so my top tip is to get organised. Record everything, takes copies of every little piece of research you carry out. If you are talking about flights, research times/stop overs etc. If there’s a building central to the plot, draw an internal layout so your descriptions are consistent. Family trees, together with dates of births/deaths etc, will make sure you don’t make a mistake over the age of a character. Believe me, it can happen!

For every story I have written I have a thick folder with pre-printed forms I use to record chapters – title, length and a few notes; I also record the timeline sequence; another is for characters names and traits etc etc. None of the files are less than two inches thick. BUT when it comes to structural editing time – often months after the manuscript was submitted – it’s easy to re-quaint myself with the characters again and double check information quickly.

The second question is usually:
What did I wish I’d known at the very start?

I don’t think I fully understood how much it would take over my life. Or how fulfilling it would be. Or how anxious I would be at times over numerous things.

Ironically, I’m a super-organised person by nature and I’m well-used to hard work. And I like to be busy and productive; it helps that I’m married to a man with the same traits, though. Some partners would not understand.

When you are following a passion and have been bitten by the bug, it’s like being on a fast moving train with no scheduled stops. You’re either in it for the long-haul, or you jump off. And then, possibly, live to regret it.

If opportunities come your way you have to be ready to grab them and do whatever needs doing to fulfil your obligations. It can very quickly go from the thrill of writing ‘The End’ to suddenly being on book six, seven, eight… and juggling everything that goes with it! So yes, I found myself in Italy on holiday and working before breakfast with a dodgy internet signal and the family saying ‘are you nearly finished?’ because I was on a blog tour.

I guess it’s like having a baby. Until the baby has arrived you can’t really imagine how it will affect your life. The answer for me was that I began with a rolling plan. Write some manuscripts, set up my author platform (website, FB, Twitter etc) and start submitting to publishers.

I reviewed it every year, setting myself more ambitious goals as I reached a new milestone. And I’m still rolling that plan on every January 1st. I still love what I do and have no regrets. But if I thought I’d worked hard in my previous careers, I will say that it does take a lot of commitment and dedication.

And I’m still riding the train, very grateful to be on it!

Coming soon:

When it comes to health a little knowledge can be a dangerous thing, but no knowledge, is risky – taking control. I’ll be talking about hair analysis and my experiences.

Turning a bland bathroom into a sanctuary needn’t cost a fortune.

The placebo effect – does it matter?

Until next time – thank you for visiting and remember – everyone has problems, it’s just that they are all different. For me, sharing is caring and I hope you find a little nugget in my blog posts that resonates with you!

 

Please note – all opinions are my own. Any products/links I share are because I have purchased, or used the product, and I have no affiliation, do not accept free gifts or money with regard to any product/person/organisation. Until next time…

 

Letting go… is sometimes necessary

Sadly, happiness is not a permanent state of being for most people. We all have good days and bad days, but when life isn’t exactly a breeze it’s very easy to let it erode any semblance of the feel-good factor.

I find it particularly hard to let go of people, even when things have moved on. Changing jobs was always tough for me. Yes, there was excitement about the new challenge ahead, but saying goodbye was unsettling – change was coming.

But that’s only one type of ‘letting go’ – it also applies to baggage from the past that seems to hang around without an invite, or when something hurts your feelings. And if you are a sensitive soul like me, there will be occasions when people probably won’t even realise that’s the case. Then there are the days when we simply wish we hadn’t gotten out of bed because nothing seems to go right.

As an author I have a wide network of online friends, some of whom I’m in regular touch with and that’s an enormous help whenever I need a listening ear. And in return, I’m there when they need a confidential chat to let off steam.

But letting go is an art – whether it’s an old hurt, a disappointment, or simply a part of moving on to the next phase in your life.

The best advice I was ever given (many years ago) was to write down whatever was troubling me as a way of letting it go. It even helped after the loss of a loved one when, after a long vigil, I wasn’t there to say a final goodbye. It was something I needed to do, to move on.

Some people shred their notes, I go out into the garden, sit quietly and burn mine. There’s something so cathartic about watching your unread messages, inner feelings you don’t want to voice, turn into a ribbon of smoke. As it dissipates, I always feel lifted. And it works.

When life isn’t sailing along nicely, I avoid negativity in any way, shape, or form. I don’t read the news or allow myself to dwell on the harsher things in life. I actively seek out thoughts, tasks/activities and people who make me feel happy. It helps no one if I let my spirits spiral out of control and I’ve seen that happen to others.

Music is helpful, as is meditation. I also use Tarot and Oracle cards, because the messages that come back to me are always constructive. I am the master of my own destiny and I believe it’s important to LIVE that. Something as simple as pulling this card, from the Gaia Oracle deck by Toni Carmine Salerno‘Liberation – breaking free from a negative attachment’, will make me stop and think!

 

Whatever tools you use to raise your spirits and put things back into perspective, if it doesn’t make you feel GOOD then it’s not the right solution. A bar of chocolate might do the trick, but a whole family-size chocolate cake isn’t a good idea.

So what little luxuries, treats, fun things have lifted my spirits recently? Well – I love walking by the sea and one of my most favourite places to visit is the Gower Coast.

The walk between Caswell Bay and Langland Bay, on the stunning Gower Coast in Wales, takes about 45 minutes each way and the views are stunning. There are several places to sit on a bench looking out across the water and at the end of the walk there’s the Langland Brasserie. Lunch, or afternoon tea, is the perfect treat before the stroll back.

Walking from Caswell Bay to Langland Bay, Gower Coast

 

My bargain buy this month, at only £7.99, is a JSDDE 7 Chakra/Reiki Healing Crystal/Natural Gemstone bracelet with a little tree of life symbol. It was purchased for me as a gift and I love it so much I bought one for a friend I knew would appreciate the thought. I love the idea of receiving something and then paying it forward to share the love. It’s pretty to wear, even if you don’t believe in the power of gemstones/chakras/Reiki.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B01MYNI95L/

 

Please note – all opinions are my own. Any products/links I share are because I have purchased, or used the product, and I have no affiliation with the product/person/organisation. As they say – sharing is caring and if you find something you like then job done! Until next time…